Culture consulting for founders and leadership teams

Most culture work fails in one of two ways.

The far enemy is the obvious one. Performance first, people second. The numbers are the only thing anyone is really measured on, and everybody knows it. That failure is easy to spot from the outside.

The near enemy is the one that gets you. It looks like the real thing. Values on the wall. An engagement survey. A leader who stands up and says something that sounds like a machine wrote it, and nobody in the room believes a word of it. Near enemies are the counterfeit version of a good thing, and they are more dangerous than the opposite, because they buy you time you don’t have. That is what most culture work actually is.

Doing nothing costs you less than that. At least then your people haven’t watched you say it and not mean it.

Culture is like gravity

Most people treat culture like the vibe. It isn’t.

Culture decides what your people actually do when you are not in the room. It is the pull on every decision made without you, and one person on their own cannot pull against it. Put your best hire into a culture that rewards looking busy and they will start looking busy inside a month. Same person. Same skills. Different pull.

This is why culture work aimed at individuals doesn’t hold. You send someone on a course, they come back changed for two weeks, and then the gravity wins.

One bad apple

There is a thing researchers call the bad apple theory, and every founder I work with has lived it.

One bad performer does not stay a contained problem. It spreads. The people around them start matching the standard, because the standard is whatever you tolerate, not whatever you said. Your A players notice first, and they are also the ones with somewhere else to go.

So the question is not whether you have a values document. It is what happens on the Tuesday when someone breaks it and everyone is watching to see what you do.

How good cultures go average

A bad apple is the easy one, because you can point at it.

Everything below is harder, because none of it comes from bad people. Every one of these happens in businesses full of committed people who mean well. That is exactly why they are so hard to see from the inside.

You are the chief of the tribe

Your people live and die on how you see them. That is not a compliment, it is the weight of the job. They read your face in a meeting, they read what you let slide, they read who gets promoted. You are setting the weather whether you mean to or not.

Most leaders accept the negative version of this and refuse the positive one. They will take the blame for a bad mood in the room and give away the credit for a good one. Both are your impact. You have to be willing to own both.

This is transformation work

Let me be straight about what it asks of you, because most people selling culture work are not.

A process change is not a culture change. Culture changes when people change how they see themselves. Identity is the level this happens on, and it is the hardest thing in the world to shift. We defend the story we have about ourselves long after it stopped being any use to us. Your limiting beliefs are tight the same way your muscles are tight. You stretch them, nothing happens, you stretch them again, nothing happens, and then one day your leg goes up.

So the work asks for three things from you before it asks for anything else.

It asks something of your team too.

They need enough emotional intelligence to see their own patterns of thought, emotion and action while those patterns are running, not a week later. That is the whole difference between reacting and responding. There is a line, and we are always above it or below it, and the line is fear. Below it you react. Above it you respond. Most people won’t call it fear. They call it stress, or overwhelm, or being flat out.

And they need somewhere to say true things out loud. That does not happen in a boardroom with a survey. It happens in a space you build on purpose, side by side rather than across a table, because face to face is a stance and shoulder to shoulder is a conversation.

Which brings up the part most culture work skips. Power is in the room whether you name it or not. Not only the obvious kind, the owner, the leader, the person who signs your leave form. Race and gender are in there too, shaping who speaks first, who gets talked over, and who does the sums and decides it isn’t worth the risk. Build a space for people to open up and leave that unnamed, and it will work beautifully for the people it was already working for. You will read their comfort as everyone’s.

None of this is quick. It is the only version that holds.

What the work looks like

I would love to tell you there is a five-step process with a certificate at the end. There isn’t, and anyone selling you one is selling the near enemy.

Identity work does not reduce to a process, because everybody’s is different and the part that matters is always the part nobody could have predicted. What you can do is prepare properly, and that part is the same every time.

Those conversations happen wherever they need to. One to one coaching. Group sessions. Workshops. Offsites. Journaling between all of it, because some things only get clear on paper.

And there are skills underneath it. Nobody needs all of these. Everyone needs some of them, and which ones is usually obvious inside a fortnight.

Practically, this runs as a six-month program with the leadership team, monthly deep-dives with you, fortnightly sessions with each team member, a quarterly workshop, and a written report every quarter so you can see what has moved. Or as a standalone workshop or offsite, one or two days, ending in a 90-day roadmap that names who does what.

You keep everything we build. Here is a small example of what “keep it” means. An open door policy sounds generous and quietly creates a culture where nobody can think, because anyone can interrupt anyone. So put a time constraint on it. My door is open, between three and five. That one change gives people certainty about when they can reach you, and gives everyone else four hours where they are not braced for a tap on the shoulder. Small, specific, and it holds long after I leave.

That last part is the whole design. The goal is that you need me less over time, not more.

Who this is for

Founders, CEOs and executive leaders who have got past the point where they can hold the culture together by being in every room. Usually somewhere between fifteen and sixty people, though the size matters less than the moment. The moment is when you notice the business has started behaving in ways you didn’t choose.

It also works for corporate leadership teams. The pressure is the same and so is the pull.

Where I’m coming from

I have done more than 10,000 hours of coaching, one to one and with leadership teams. Every framework I use is published free in the Source Code, because if a thing only works while I’m in the room it isn’t a system, it’s a dependency.